Ah yes, patience. In some families today it’s almost treated as though it were a cuss-word, which is sad. Patience I believe is a big deal, one of those ‘out of the park home run’ kinda things, that even if you aren’t the best at it, you need to strive to achieve. With children, it makes it that much harder. But do you notice today how severely lacking in patience everyone is? Do the products you consume or purchase feel like they were made well, or do they come apart and need replacing sooner than you expected? Had the company, or their workers, have had more patience in their product making techniques, perhaps that product would be better, for being created better, with more patience. But now-a-days its all about cranking out what you can as fast as you can, to meet ‘needs’ but nevermind the quality. Same I believe goes for some families in today’s world too. People don’t have the patience to explain to their children anymore, they expect them to be mind readers. They expect them to know what they’re supposed to be doing without guiding them, expect them to react immediately and blindly obeying at the snap of their fingers. It doesn’t happen like that! Children need guidance, need love, affection, and PATIENCE. To be shown patience and patient guidance is to help them not only learn, but learn it themselves and use it on others. Its like that whole term “paying it forward”, doing a good deed for someone who does a good deed for someone else. Imagine if you taught your child to be patient and they showed that patience with others, who then learned to also be patient, and it went on so on and so forth. Can you imagine how much less stressed this world would be??
Anyway, the reason I’m posting this today is because of what I’ve been witnessing lately – a rising trend among people I encounter with their children, and others, and how little they seem to care at how they bark orders at their children, expecting their children to jump, sit still, don’t move, don’t cough, don’t breathe too loudly… you know the type. I understand parenting is a hard job, but when children get treated this way, they lash out – they lash out to their teachers, to other family members, siblings, friends, and the next thing you know there’s a label on them like a troublemaker, or ADD, or something, and it only goes downhill that much further. The thing that most worries me is that this child is being brought up with such animosity, such lack of patience, and then will be unleashed upon the world at age 18 or whenever, without having the proper tools to take care of himself and relate to others properly. In this world today, a very troubled world, more and more people are being set out to the world in exactly this situation. All because parents were overworked, overstressed, and didn’t care to count to 10, breathe, before reacting to their children. And eventually these children will have their own children, and more than likely be raised the exact way, same issues, same consequences. Its a vicious cycle that I’m hoping people are starting to catch on to and work on.
Hey, is it me or did this post start to sound Dr. Phil-ish? hee hee Eh, I think I have my head too far up into the clouds today. Off to go snuggle with some babies, drink some all-important morning java and read some more.